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Rethinking Resolutions

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Whether it’s the desire to lose weight, be more organized, write a book, or start a business, the truth is that few resolutions actually come to pass.  The reason is that some key factors are missing.

Devising a strategy

A goal is a dream – with legs. You need an action plan to set your goal in motion. You also need to create a deadline. “One of these days” or “someday” won’t work. 

To prevent getting overwhelmed, start with your first steps and create a time frame. Write them down and keep them visible.  Once you hit those goals, think about what else is needed.

What’s your motivation?

You have to pick a goal that you really want to achieve.  If it’s something that you’re doing because you feel you “should” or because someone else is doing it, then it loses its value.  If your health or your financial future depended on it, you’d be motivated to kick things in gear. 

Ladies, if you’ve stayed home to raise the kids, don’t let that prevent you from planning your next stage! If you have an empty nest, or almost empty nest, it’s definitely time!

Persistence pays off

To reach your goal, you really need to be persistent.  It helps to set up a regular routine.  For example, when I first began swimming laps, I could barely do 5 (10 lengths of the pool).  I thought I was in pretty good shape, since I’m a former runner. However, I kept getting out of breath and I discovered that I was using muscles that I didn’t even know I had. Ouch! 

A lifeguard taught me a trick that seemed silly at first but really worked. He told me to “swim the alphabet”.  You think of every word you can that begins with the letter “A”, for example, and then move onto the next letter.  I committed to swimming 3 or 4 times a week and within a few months, I was able to swim all 26 laps with ease.

pumpkin_pie What to do when you’re stuck or backslide

If your goal was to lose weight and you just polished off the rest of the holiday pumpkin pie, don’t beat yourself up over it.  Keep things in perspective and move forward. This also applies to your business, your career, or relationships.

If the pattern keeps repeating itself, you may need to dig deep to discover why you keep sabotaging yourself.  The answers may not be obvious, so you may need to work with someone to reveal your blind spots, boost your confidence, and help you move forward. 

Helping you get started

To help you reach your goals, I am offering a complimentary, 30-minute strategy session via phone, Skype, or Google chat. Click here to arrange your time slot. 

Take time to dream in 2014 and get ready to rock! 

Dori_RockerChick_jacket2013Dori Staehle is the owner and Chief Encouragement Officer at Rock the Next Stage. She is a holistic business and success coach. Her specialty is helping people who are 40+ create businesses that rock and lives that they love.