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The Top 2 Fears that Hold People Back

What are you afraid of? Are your fears preventing you from moving forward?

Here are the top two things that stop many musicians, singers, speakers, and entrepreneurs in their tracks:

1) Stage fright

“Ok, 5 minutes people!” The first time I heard the stage manager say that, I thought I was going to throw up! Me? Play percussion? On a big stage? When I auditioned for the rock band at my church 12 years ago, I had no experience or even lessons. I just had beats in my head. I prayed that they would come out at the right time so I could hit those bongos and congas and keep up. Fortunately, they did. And I was hooked!

As a concert promoter and booking agent, I had put hundreds of young singers and musicians on stage. Now, it was my turn. I coached many of them through stage fright. I had to remember my own tips.

Have a pre-game ritual. Prayers and positive affirmations work really well.
Get in the zone and take a deep breath before you start.
Remember, this isn’t about you. It’s about your audience.
If you slip, stop for a second and wait for the words or the beat to come back to you.
Finish strong!

2) Fear of being yourself

This affects more people than you would imagine. I see it in musicians and singers who pick a musical lane that really doesn’t fit them. I also see it in entrepreneurs and job seekers. They’re trying to please everyone and do and say what they think people want to hear. They’re afraid to step into their greatness.

This also included me. Originally, I had intended to be a business and an ADHD coach. When people found out that I play percussion and was also using hand drums with private clients for stress relief and ADD/ADHD issues, they gave me the name “Dori the Drum Chick.”

I wasn’t ready to embrace that title yet. I went back and forth many times because:

I listened to too many people and didn’t trust God or myself. I kept thinking I needed to do something “practical.”
I thought I needed to do what everyone else was doing. I discovered the world of online coaching and thought that was the ticket. I didn’t realize how much I’d miss being on stage as a speaker or performer. I actually started out as a dancer, much like the little girl in the photo above (except with tap and jazz shoes).
I thought that I was too old to do what I really wanted to do. Besides, the idea of adding drumming to my business seemed…well…pretty crazy.
I didn’t want to put myself out there. I didn’t think anyone would want to hear my story or would understand the therapeutic aspects of drumming. I was wrong. I had to remind myself that I overcame extreme shyness and a whole lot of adversity to be able to share my gifts. They were given to me for a reason. The same applies to you.

So, what’s holding you back? What are you afraid of? Isn’t it time to rise up, rock the next stage of your life, and be the YOU God created you to be? Snag a free, 30-min. phone consult and let’s chat!

Dori Staehle, MBA lives in the Raleigh, NC area and is the Founder & CEO (Chief Encouragement Officer) at Rock the Next Stage. She’s a professional percussionist, therapeutic drumming facilitator and speaker, as well as a best-selling author and podcast host. She loves sharing the joy of drumming and recently taught herself how to play the full drum set. Life’s short. Might as well rock! To book Dori for speaking or drumming, click here.