It’s worse if you’re a writer, a speaker, or a performer. When you put yourself out there, you have to brace yourself for critics and unsolicited opinions. What I’ve learned is that you can’t let it get to you. You’ve got to shake it off!
Taking a Stand
Many years ago, I spoke at the North Carolina Gifted and Talented Association’s annual conference. My workshop was called Harnessing Your Child’s Potential through Homeschooling and it included the results of my study called The Gifted/ADHD Connection. The talk was supposed to be a breakout session for parents.
I quickly realized that psychologists and teachers were also in attendance – and they weren’t too pleased with my anti-medication and pro-homeschooling platforms. Some got up and walked out. I even got heckled!
They wanted to know how I knew all this stuff about brain integration and what really causes attention deficit disorder, or ADHD. After all, I was “just a Mom.” Actually, I entered a graduate program for gifted education but was told I was “beyond the program.” So I became a Mom on a mission. I’m also an Italian from New Jersey. I don’t get rattled easily. And I wasn’t backing down.
I then showed them something shocking: The traits of giftedness and ADHD are exactly the same. My case studies revealed a pattern of underlying issues that were causing ADHD symptoms. I explained that I had connected with parents all over the country whose highly gifted kids were mislabeled and recommended for Ritalin. They were now in the homeschooling community. My snarky retort was “Hey, don’t shoot the messenger!” Based on the feedback from the other audience members, I knew I was on the right track.
Don’t let others try to discount your gifts, talents, or ideas because they don’t feel you’re an “expert” or experienced enough. Defend your dreams! As I’ve told the bands and solo artists I’ve worked with, you need three things to succeed:
Not everyone will get you and what you’re all about. Many will try to deter you or cut you down. Keep going! Eventually, you will find your voice and your “tribe” and you’ll be on your way!
How about you?
What have you taken a stand for? What ticks you off or what do you want to change? Need help finding your voice? Let’s chat!
Dori Staehle, MBA lives in the Raleigh, NC area and is a Drum Chick on a Mission! She’s a former homeschooling parent and a very vocal advocate for gifted, creative, and talented kids and adults with ADHD traits. Dori is a drum healer, speaker, coach, and percussionist at Rock the Next Stage and the best-selling author of Find Your Divine Rhythm: A Creative’s Success Formula. Click here if you’d like to schedule a complimentary consult or to book Dori for therapeutic drumming, a drumming event, or speaking.