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You Can’t Follow Your Dream if You’re Drained

I can’t believe this happened! It’s downright embarrassing, really. After all, I’m the Chief Encouragement Officer. But there I was in a coffee shop catching up with a friend I hadn’t seen in a while. And it just popped out. What was it? Negativity.

Where did it come from? Well, I’m going to be honest here. Even positive people aren’t positive 100% of the time. I was just feeling like the woman in the above picture: Frustrated, overwhelmed, and tired of being tied to my laptop.

And then, out of the blue, my friend did this! Ouch!

Time to recalibrate

Ok, so she didn’t really do that but I did get some “tough love” and yes, it stung a bit. I realized that I needed to take a step back, stop pushing so hard, and try to focus on who God created me to be. It occurred to me that many of the things that I do for my business, I do out of habit (like posting on Twitter 3x a day, even though I get very little interaction). This is not moving things forward! As I coach, I know this. I need to listen to my own advice.

So here are some outside of the box things I thought I’d try. Maybe these will help you as well:

1) Exercise more. Yes, it may look like I’m in shape but I don’t have the muscle tone I used to. I think my body is so used to swimming laps 3x a week that it’s no longer a challenge. I’m going to finally try some of the free exercise classes at my gym. I might actually meet new people and talk about other things besides business. What a concept.

2) Drop some activities. It’s great to help people or organizations but if it’s sucking up too much of your time and adding stress, then that’s not good. I stepped down from my positions at a local non-profit and a women’s organization.

3) Try a new look. I changed my hair color and went lighter for the summer. I also got a shorter cut. You can also switch up your wardrobe and try different colors. It may seem silly but it actually works.

4) Remember your “beat.” It’s easy to lose your way when you’re doing way too much. I need to pare things down. This summer, I’m going to focus mainly on drumming….and writing book #2. I’ve got something else in the works that’s pretty cool. Stay tuned!

5) Just “be.” Take some time each day to breathe, focus, and relax. Connect with God and nature and just listen. I’m always thinking or talking or doing 1,001 things at once. This week, I heard God say “Would you just stop! Be quiet already and listen!” Oops. Yes, the world won’t come to an end if you take a break – or if you back off your newsletter or stay off of social media for a while. It is summertime, after all.

Did these tips resonate with you? Feel free to comment below!

Dori Staehle, MBA lives in the Raleigh, NC area and is the Chief Encouragement Officer and Rhythm Maker at Rock the Next Stage. She is a Musician on a Mission: To help people rise up and rock the next stage of their talent, business, and their life. She’s also an inspirational speaker, podcast host, percussionist, therapeutic drumming facilitator, and best-selling author of Find Your Divine Rhythm: A Creative’s Success Formula. To contact Dori, click here.