What’s Most Important to You?

As the predictions for Hurricane Florence became more and more alarming, my husband and I began battening down the hatches. It looked like this would be worse than Hurricane Matthew and Raleigh would suffer a direct hit.

As someone who has had to walk away from jobs, two of my businesses, and had to move more than a dozen times due to relocations or layoffs, I am no stranger to change and loss. We’ve said goodbye to family and friends and houses and areas that I loved. And then there was my accident in 2011 when I had to start completely over, physically, mentally, and financially.

What would you take?

We prepared for the possibility of flooding or of trees hitting the house, causing us to have to evacuate. Fortunately, the storm left us with only minimal property damage. We never lost power. It was harrowing nonetheless.

I began to wonder: If we had to evacuate, what would I take?

I’ve driven cross-country twice with two kids, three pets (including a large Golden Retriever who was my co-pilot), musical instruments, suitcases, and snacks packed into a minivan. Now that our kids are grown, I have a much smaller vehicle. That leaves little room for the non-essentials. That’s when you start prioritizing and realize that some things have to be left behind.

It’s the same in business and in life. There is a time and a season for everything. Change happens and sometimes storms hit. Both often come with mixed emotions and a sense of loss. Here are some tips that may help:

The sun always comes out…eventually

1) Focus on what you have, not what you’ve lost. This is a tough one. You can’t change what happened but you can have hope for the future (I’m not talking about the loss of a loved one but of a job, a relationship, a house, etc.).

2) Let it out. It’s ok to cry or be angry or frustrated. This is all part of grieving and loss. You don’t have to lose a loved one to experience grief. This is why banging on a drum helps!

3) Just breathe. Know that adversity builds resilience and resourcefulness. I may have been through a lot but things don’t phase me as much now. I look at life differently and have learned to trust God more. I’ve learned not to dwell on things I can’t change. It’s a question of shifting your attitude and your mindset. It’s not easy but it can be done.

The importance of support

Another thing I’ve learned through all of life’s changes is not to be too proud to ask for help. If you need help boosting your mindset, bouncing back, or becoming more resilient, I offer private coaching, group coaching, and drum therapy to help you rise up and rock.

If you need help due to the hurricane or would like to help, here is a link to a list of organizations and resources. Many areas are still without power and flooding continues. Continued prayers for all those affected by Hurricane Florence!

What would you take with you if you had to evacuate? Leave a comment below!

Dori Staehle, MBA lives in the Raleigh, NC area and is the owner of Rock the Next Stage and Next Stage Drumming. She’s survived several hurricanes since she’s been in North Carolina. Known as Dori the Drum Chick, she created special coaching and therapeutic drumming programs to help people get unstuck and break free from what’s holding them back so they can rise up and rock. She’s also the best-selling author of Find Your Divine Rhythm: A Creative’s Success Formula and a rockin’ speaker with a great bounce-back story! To contact Dori, click here.