When Things Begin to Unravel

As a musician who lugs around a lot of gear, sometimes stuff happens. A venue once gave me a cart to use. I loaded my African drums onto it, reached into my car for a second, and there went the cart! It rolled down the parking lot, hit a bump, and several drums popped off and smashed onto the pavement. “Noooo!!!” I screamed as I ran after the cart. Several of my pristine drums now had dings on the top. Well, at least they didn’t crack or break.

My drums have taken a few hits over the years but nothing major. These are my travel drums, so they’re pretty sturdy. They’re rope-tuned, which means they’re covered in ropes. The ropes on the base, as a new student discovered this week, can unravel. The rubber bottoms can also pop off, especially in the summer heat.

Both of these things are easy to fix. Even though it looks like a major issue, it’s really no big deal. The young student who was using the drum began to freak out a bit.

“Don’t worry about it. Just keep drumming,” I said. And she was great!

Don’t make mountains out of molehills

How often do you let mistakes or disappointments get the better of you? It happens to the best of us. I judged a talent show last weekend. One of the contestants was a dancer. As a former dancer, I could tell she forgot some steps. But you know what? No one else would have caught it. What gave it away were her facial expressions. If I had coached her before she went on, I would have told her that if her nerves kick in, just keep dancing. No one would know if she changed the steps.

I’d give the same advice to musicians, singers, speakers, and entrepreneurs: Get back on the beat and keep going!

Keep things in perspective

Here are a few things that I’ve had to remind myself of over the years, when things looked really bleak:

1) This, too, shall pass. If you’re stuck or feeling overwhelmed, remind yourself of when you overcame something and moved forward.

2) Worry never solves anything. When I start to worry, I remember that fear and faith cannot coexist. As a person of faith, I know that God’s got this. You can’t see what’s beyond the horizon. Yet.

3) Things sometimes fall apart for a reason. This is a tough one. Sometimes you have to go through stuff so you can learn, grow, rise up, and rock! Maybe it was time to make a change or do things differently. Hang in there, my friend!

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Dori Staehle, MBA lives in the Raleigh, NC area and is the Founder & CEO (Chief Encouragement Officer) at Rock the Next Stage. She is a Musician on a Mission: To help people rise up and rock the next stage of their talent, business, and their life. Dori is also a motivational speaker, coach and mentor, drum chick, podcast host, and a best-selling author. For more encouraging tips, click here to sign up for Dori’s newsletter. You’ll also receive a free E-book!